Okay, I'll start out by stating the obvious: I love Facebook. It is so fun to stay connected to all my friends and family, even if most times it is a one-line update of what they are currently up to, no matter how mundane it is. I also like how I've discovered people I slightly knew 20+ years ago that I now realize are extremely interesting and like-minded as me (and discover people I thought I knew who surprise me with their current views on the world). And while I probably do hop on more than I should each day to get an update, that time is getting smaller, and I find myself just briefly looking rather than spending much time on it.
But I also have a little dissonance with the whole experience too. I've been surprised by this small feeling of being "left out" that pops up every once in a while. Finding myself seeing a name from high school of someone that has friended multiple people on my friend list, and wondering why I haven't been asked to be a friend too. Or seeing "notes" that people post and noticing that I wasn't one of the 25 chosen to be mentioned down the side that would ensure I'd notice what had been put out there. I have to then remind myself that honestly I don't care all that much about keeping in touch with that person, or I would have sent them a friend request myself. Or that I really don't care that much what a particular person had written about themselves (of course this doesn't mean anyone reading this blog - I read ALL of what you guy post).
Speaking of that friend list, why is it when I want to cull some people out of it the ones I pick are all the ones with like 10 friends or less? So while Facebook may not send any message about you leaving to the person you are dropping, don't you think they would notice if their friend total suddenly drops 10%? So don't judge my shallowness by the size of my friend list - I now have morning-after regrets for a few of those. Yet I still keep searching for more...
2 comments:
I had to pull myself back too. I'm trying to only check once a day, if that now. But I'm so with you on getting my feelings hurt, then later realizing that I really don't care that I wasn't included on a list or whatever. I've become very scrutinizing in who I want to be a friend. I've ignored several suggestions lately, but only one from the actual person themselves.
Wow this is a cool blog-
I wasn't aware of it!
FYI when I wrote my 1st '25 things about Leonard' note (I see no reason why we should be relegated to just one note so I'll be doing more) I noticed that the application limited me as to how many people I could tag to let them know it was there- which I thought sucked. So, at times, someone might want to let you know that they wrote something but are relegated to a limited amount of people they may alert- I don't know why it's set up in this limiting fashion but it is.
There are SOO many things I want to do on a daily basis and so very little time- now I will add stopping by your blog on occasion to that list. Man oh man lol!
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